Its beyond sin. So whether he sobers up or not the focus needs to be on doing whatever is necessary to prevent him from scheming his way back into ministry where he will be given the opportunity of committing more spiritual abuse. I was about to defend you, until I saw the word livers in there. And some self-medicate. and me: That was the time between his arrest in November 2016 and his plea deal. I am not the one who is saying how people should get people into treatment programs. We have covered some of these issues through the years. A lot of injury can be done by someone driving under the influence of alcohol. (And the same goes for HUG where he contemptuously described me as righteous.). We went over this last night. Today, Stephen Nichols and Mrs. Vesta Sproul talk about the vision behind RBC 10 years after its founding. This led to serious issues for the people involved. I also said that down in the road, in his recovery (if hes agreeable to getting clean and sober), he needs to make amends to people individually that he harmed, to families, and to entire churches (including publicly up front) with the help of a sponsor(sober mentor) directing him in how this process should be carried out. Thats awful. Please stop advocating for other family members of substance abusers and how the church treats them? When there are cover-ups to protect the leader, whole families shunned because they dont like the church, those are certainly red flags. Church counseling may be harmful at times, but my experience (and my familys experience) with secular programs or treatment has not always been successful, either. In my part of the U.S. we thankfully have a variety of lost-cost medical clinics that include psychiatric services. And yes, the drunk chose to drive. If RSJ confessed his sin, repented of it, and was restored to the Body of Christ, Hallelujah! Years later when I was a senior dating an older guy (in his twenties, lol) who took me to a college party about an hour from home, I made him promise me that he would not add anything to my Coke. H.A. If he has been drinking as long as is being alleged, Sproul is at high risk of offending again. The church frequently blows it on things like this, without proper training and guidance. I dont know if Wilsons church actively shames recovering alcoholics, but I have read numerous accounts of Sproul Jrs church doing so. The exchange of viewpoints is very effective. He is damaging indeed, and the fruits are showing. Okrapod is a doctor and I work in mental health. I agree that he should be put out based on his ongoing chronic abuse behaviors, some behaviors that have not been mentioned here (including his abuse of alcohol which has put kids in harms way). Unfortunately, it means humbling yourself and opening up your family to public inspection. so I think that the front-loaded moral and ethical formation of a young person in the Church is a kind of preventative and strengthening function, far more positive than punishment. I had typical teen issues, and was so thankful (and still am) to find forgiveness through Christ. I already alluded to the fact that there is much more than the public is aware of. Hi Julie Anne, (P.S. He gave several steps to be taken in dealing with a professed believer who is living a life of rebellion against God. It needs to stop. And regardless of your answer, if people in his sphere (church) are aware, but ignoring the issues, then they have something to answer for as well. H.A. Sproul Social Network Timeline 2017 He was a writer, known for Calvinist (2017), The Parables of Jesus (2012) and The Gospel: 2016 National Conference (2016). Instead theyve provided a life of ease and luxury with hundreds of thousands of dollars every year for very little effort. He will also get real psychological help for his children to work through the various traumatic experiences they have been through. and me and Barbara advocated that alcoholics should be kicked out of the church. I verified this myself, at the site, at the time. Outside help IS best when family members are too emotionally close to the problem and cant find their way alone. Thats the Lord Himself teaching, so I dont take that lightly. Exactly! As far as CPS removing his kids goes, they probably wont as long as she remains in the household, unless there is proof of her abetting his drunk driving with kids in the car. I wonder whether RC Sproul Senior has accepted that fact yet? Everyone who knows him confesses how genuinely repentant of a person he is and how quick he is to admit his failures. I doubt it. ++++++++++++++. -Which will bum Velour out for me to say, because she thinks Im not chipper and positive enough about things, but I am stating my reality. By the way, he was the only individual who thought I was worthy of a promotion and signed the papers for my promotion. Its rude. I dont know what treatment would work best for Mr Sproul, but I dont think it should differ that widely from what would be offered to any of his parishioners. When he was stopped, the officer observed that Sproul needed support to walk, he swayed, mumbled and had a moderate smell of alcohol on his breath. Im not giving him a pass on any abusive behavior. Today that little churchis her home church. For the first time ever, Ive got the first comment, all the way from England. Youll say in one breath that the dude should be fired or held accountable, but then you get angry with people who say he should be held accountable or be fired (in public). I dont know a lot about Sproul Sr, but Ive always been led to understand that he is a God-fearing man and pastor. Even if they were a woman. So Ill start to believe that RC is repentant when he contacts me personally to confess and repent of all the damage he caused me and my family. Vesta Freese, age 89 of Longmont, CO, formerly of Lake View, IA, passed away on Monday, November 18, 2019, in Longmont, CO. Vesta Ann Keiser was born on August 19, 1930, in Clinton Township, Sac City, IA, to parents Austin and Iva (Luft) Keiser. I agree that he should lose his job for his abuses and that he should not be enabled. are you far from there? I think where we differ is that I did not see Barbaras comment as a blanket endorsement of kicking all addicts/alcoholics out of every church. I think what I am trying yo say is each person stands before God on his/her own.were we guilty of our sons choices,? One time, his daughter invited me to the Sproul house for a sleepover. keggers). I also understand the difference of being the victim vs the perpetrator. The solution to spiritual abuse isnt to cast aside what the Bible commands the church to do, its to obey the Bible. R.C. Had therapy and continues to do so. Julie Anne wrote: I remember how lonely I was when I first walked away from the spiritually toxic environment that I found in the inner circle of that church. That does not mean that we do not also think that he should get treatment for the good of his children and his wife and the community at large. Just that God, even when I was doubting him the most, was faithful.). From that day forward, he chose not to drink. Its non stop catering to their lifestyle. Do they look for excuses to have the equivalent of one for the road? Open Discussion Page, I believe you missed the intent of Dees post. That is your point of contention, not mine. We were basically a para church ministry. For instance, Ive no control over my basal insulin requirement; if I take too much Ill be hypoglycaemic (albeit mildly) in the morning, and if I take too little, my glucose levels will be high (albeit much less than they were when I was diagnosed!). I say I because it was just I. You sure about that? Much of the information posted is inaccurate both in substance and interpretation. But in the mean-time, we cannot look away or play the blame-game on overwhelmed souls. Clearly you have never experienced the total helplessness and pain of having an alcoholic loved one. Sigh. Welcome to TWW. Lots more is known about addictions these days. \ Not astounding to me. Hi Julie Anne, Velour, you are assuming Barbara is saying that based on his alcoholism. My extended family has a lot of alcoholics. I would agree the church in the dark ages had a very bad reputation when it came to church discipline, Spanish Inquisition and all that. Bodily Autonomy, Reproductive Rights, and the Christian Patriarchy Movement - Prudent Today, The Homeschool Movement: Its Reconstructionist Roots and Rushdoonys Influence, Seth Dunn Tweets that a Woman Pastor is Just as Bad as a Sex Offender Who is Hired as aPastor, Christian Domestic Discipline (Wife Spanking): A Personal Story, and a Closer Look at Patterns Connected with this AbusivePractice. There was a need for push back, since in the beginning you never outlined your reasons supporting R.C. First I do not agree that it is the churchs responsibility to have any medical opinions about people, or try to channel them into any treatment options, or to espouse any particular medical opinions as the official opinions or procedures of the church. Just search his name and spiritual abuse, etc. Put a stop to this carnage. John was born. She may not have much say over what he does, especially anything involving his children. I made a few personal connections with ppl. Someone just thanked me who has that struggle and who was reading here yesterday, churned up by the discussion. This man, if all that is being said is true, is guilty of causing scandal-that is lots worse than just being some pitiful old drunk. This Is NOT a Parody! The church should do their level-best to get help for his wife and children. That feels like another put down and Im really uncomfortable with it. However, I also get nauseated if I drink more than 8 ounces of wine. Serous help? When he was born again by the power of Christ Jesus, he did become a new creature in Him. I am extremely angry and jealous that I did not make the money he made. (This is different from hiding them for a little while and bringing them back on an apology/book tour.). If you know you have a problem with alcohol, you need to face up to your issue and get help. I agree with you that the judge probably ordered that Sproul Jr. go to some 12-step recovery meetings, as that is normal what the probation department would recommend in their report to the court. leads to much worse compulsive drinking. Not completely sure what you meant by this part, Answer to God. I also think that churches, like employers, play a role in getting people with addictions into treatment. Awful. My heart aches for what RC must have had to deal with and for what Vesta and Jr's children still deal with today. The Bible says that those who profess to be brothers in Christ and are drunkards need to be expelled from the church. Leave him alone! He didnt just feel forsaken; he was forsaken. This is inexcusable and seriously hurts your credibility. . Why should they be deprived of love and fellowship? But we were in a semi-rural small town exurb and life is like that in smaller circles. I tried really hard to help and could not. No its not. Sproul was born in Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania, as the second child of Robert Cecil Sproul, an accountant and a veteran of World War II and his wife, Mayre Ann Sproul (ne Yardis). A couple things stood out to me: Alcoholism changes the persons brain. After the alky refuses to cooperate, which most drunkards do (sorry for substituting the Dark Ages biblical term), what then? We also have personal experience with RC Jr. I didnt even over-eat. His license was reinstated early this month with no restrictions. Page 14. Brene Brown said something about if you numb the pain, you are also numbing the good emotions. And again, Im very sorry for the barbs. Find local and national death notices, funeral notices, obituaries, in memoriams, and acknowledgements at funeral-notices.co.uk, plus a directory of over 3,000 UK Funeral Directors Enter a grandparent's name. https://rachelheldevans.com/blog/ask-a-recovering-alcopholic-response-heather-kopp, (*I am not endorsing Rachel Held Evans, this is just the website where I found the article.). They see insult where none was intended, and are quick to react and hurl barbs and insults in retaliation. 3 Or dont you know that all of us who were baptized into Christ Jesus were baptized into his death? The road to Mendota was very long and wound sharply through thick woods. Im not sure if Im thinking of the same comment, but I remember reading a comment that was confirming that this was the first DUI in a long history of drinking and driving (a history that goes way back, before the deaths of his wife and daughter, which means hes been doing this for years). I believen you may not know that history with JR. Have you not caught up? Velour, please do not be so quick to assume that because someone failed to mention treatment, that they are against it. He excommunicates entire families for the alleged sins of just one family member. I am not sure that you know my background. Have to agree. If I have said something that has caused you harm, please let me know. throw him out of the house. Having had much shade thrown our way in the early 80s because our oldest son was into alcohol and drugs, we decided to start a support group called Parents Concerned This was in Silicon Valley. Provisions have also been made in order to detect error, sin, falsehood and the demonstration of improper behavior within the body of Christ believers. H.A. Call me an old fuddy-duddy, but I will upset folks if I keep talking catch you on the next TWW piece. they simply enjoy all kinds of beverages because they pleasurable. The fact is RC Jr has been abusing booze since he was a teenager. I'm astonished he hasn't killed someone already.". Thats as harsh for the father as the recommendation for the son. Isnt there some kind of authoritative oversight in the Presbyterian denomination? Anger, no. Vastly different things. Has that been reported on or discussed? He regained his health, went to AA, extensive counseling and stayed sober. During all my time of distress, nobody in the church was there for me, whether inside or outside a brick building with a cross and steeple. When I am around a person/s who are alcoholics, I will not drink alcohol because I dont want to be a cause for them to be tempted to drink. Please pardon me for saying this, but from the tone of your comments, it seems as if your reaction was more to go to war with Barbara than to try to find out what she actually meant. Velour was being hostile to a few people up thread such as Barbara and Julie Anne, and later, to me. and fails to get the help he needs . If one has not read the Adult children of alcoholic books, dont consider yourself educated on this matter. You can read our explanation here: RC Jr is all about covenant theology. What does it say of the covenant when all that is necessary to be a covenant member is youve been baptized as an infant but you can go on sinning like the devil with no remorse for your wickedness? She just soaked up the love in the very back and left each time. "Who will pay for the SBCs abuse reforms over the long term? We had a great time together. Thanks for giving it a try. Re Sproul, Im kind of with Jack in that its hard to have sympathy for him, because Ive seen too many other things that bother me. Drunkenness was one of a number of formal charges that were brought against RC Sproul Jr in late 2005 to his denomination, the Reformed Presbyterian Church General Assembly. Their brains truly dont work. Within a year or two hell petition the court to expunge the misdemeanor. Ah, but by their theology, he also bears a certain immunity. That was wrong of Sproul Jr. and he did an incredible amount of damage. I did not use the word divorce. Go back and read what I said. Many of us have been abused in our families of origin, which is bad enough. Denise Sproul passes away from leukemia. She did not show that she had no clue. If any are reading and know what Im talking about, please contact me. I am sorry to hear this. What it did do is wake him up to his own sins and cause effective change immediately. Why are you addressing that to me? He just had his church take a vote and put him right back in as their pastor, which is all the proof you need to know his church was actually a cult. I was trying to offer some even-handed commentary. And I cant thank you enough for the lovely story that you wrote to us yesterday about how your church and clergy loved and cared for that woman church member who was an alcoholic and who wasnt clean and sober. Hopefully someone close to Lisa Sproul is following this thread and may encourage her to attend. The surgeons would tell you pregnancy is a disease, My son-in-law says that my love for fried chicken livers is a sickness.. I guess in a way it is a statement that is all some can make at the time, but they do it anyway. As the Apostle Paul instructs us, these instructions are not grievous; they provide strength, nourishment to the establishment of the believer within the body of Christ. A probation department typically makes a written recommendation to the judge about the course of treatment, that includes professional treatment. Also wanted to add that is where my mind goes first too on this thread, too. He just masks it well.. I no longer read Barbaras blog for that reason either. We hear all of the time the horrible counseling advice from Nouthetic Counseling/Biblical Counseling that people who are depressed or have other mental health problems arent really Christians if they take medication, havent tried hard enough, etc. I know people, who are close to me, involved with St. Peters I love and miss dearly. We are very fortunate to have these services available for people who cant afford them. This does not give any of us an excuse to walk in disobedience to the Lord as he has.. Drinking and driving is SO DANGEROUS! I was raised with the reality that people know what you are doing and it all comes back on you-at school, at church, in your social circle, on the job and wherever. Lea wrote: His boozing and chronic bully behavior was going on long before the family tragedies. The Bible is much more complex than just a few Scripture verses on any one topic, including the ones you have cited to justify kicking problem drinkers to the curb. it seems too public and intrusive for most people, I think; the worst thing Ive heard is that the leaders of the accountability groups go running to the pastor with all the details and what is admitted to in the group comes back later to haunt the person if they attempt to leave the Church. Apologies for hitting to soon and posting. The problem with your narrative is weve seen it all before. If you think that is hateful, your gripe is with the Bible not with me. Theres a lot thats known about how to deal with people with addictions. R C Sproul Junior needs to be put out of the church and that needs to be very publicly done because he has been so significant at Ligonier. We all hope that Dr. Sproul attempted to intercede with his sons alcoholism, rather than leaving his sons conscience to deal with it he was obviously in trouble. The church is a body of Christ followers. He has used his position of authority and harmed people. I think theres a mixing of apples and oranges here, and its been going on since the very start of this thread. I doubt it. It didnt sober him up but its good for maintenance of the recovery. He had always been so nice before, but that made me feel that I couldnt trust him. so he keeps the whole thing going? Not the good-ole boyz club nonsense, no. This!! There is more than one issue going on with RC2: alcoholism, spiritual abuse, unrepentant heart, etc. Name me one church and one case that has carried out Biblical Church Discipline correctly. That he is not qualified to serve as a pastor given his abusive history of church members, former church members, and other disqualifying behaviors; Hundreds of people showed up. To me, its the better road than the kick them out approach. Everyone who knows him confesses how genuinely repentant of a person he is and how quick he is to admit his failures. However it might have happened, we did not see it until we were out. Our President Donald Trump doesnt drink at all. Here is an article by a Christian woman Heather, the author of Sober Mercies, about her own journey as a recovering alcoholic. Other people were subjected to the same treatment. We are, after all, all Christians here, and are called to bear one anothers burdens. all are attractive.). Being a parent of an alcoholic or drug abuser is scary. If he Sproul gets clean and sober he will probably ditch many ideas that he used to justify including patriarchy. or a reviler, [verbal attack, slander, violent language] Few of them are willing and even able to do that. Unfortunately, drunk or sober, he espouses patriarchy, even to the point of rumored wife-spanking. 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